The Treasure Of Being Alone

Being alone actually builds strength. Mental strength comes from taking time often to be alone with your own thoughts. Get rid of all the distractions and find yourselves a convenient cave in which to sequester yourself from the noise and confusion of the world. The place can be an actual remote cave or a special room where you insist on not being disturbed or it can be a stroll along a river bank walkway —

Sunset, Tree, Silhouette, Dusk, Lonely, Abendstimmung


There are studies showing that taking time to retreat into solitude can relieve lots of stress. It can increase happiness. Do not ask me how that works but some experts say that it does

Some people say that being alone helps us to be more compassionate toward people who do not share our own lifestyles, or our viewpoints or our socio-economic positions.

Business experts have discovered that people who can do their work in privacy are far more productive that people who are forced to work in open work environments.

One thing is certain if nothing else is … it is far better to be alone than it is to be in bad company. Somebody said that once but I cannot remember who said it. But I believe it to be true.

Another wise man has informed us that the times when we feel the loneliest are the times when we really need to be by ourselves. I think I know something about this:

When we are by ourselves there is nobody else around but us.

When there is nobody else around but us, we can become more familiar with who we really are.

When we are alone in the company of ourselves, we have a great opportunity to become better friends with ourselves and everybody needs to be better friends with themselves. The reason? The reason is that in some cases we are often our own worst enemy … and if that is the case, the situation needs to be resolved for every practical and pragmatic reason that I can think of.

Being at enmity with ourselves can lead to us hating ourselves and there is no positive outcome in a situation like that.

We definitely need to be our own best friends.

If we can get to the point where we are our own best friends, then that is the friend that will be most loyal and true and he or she will be there when all others have flown the coop.

There is no need to fear being alone because when you are alone you can be assured that there is at least one other person who cares for you and that person is yourself.

One of the greatest rewards of being alone is that when you are truly alone there is no other person you need to answer to except yourself.

People who experience aloneness have no need to make excuses to other people for anything that is said, thought or done.

All this talk leads me to remember the old saying, “To Thine Own Self Be True.”

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Author: John American Citizen Opinion Blogger -- Inspired and Educated, smart but not all that gorgeous.

3 thoughts on “The Treasure Of Being Alone”

  1. It is good to realise that solitude is not loneliness, but a choice made by an individual. I have all my best and most creative thoughts when alone, or out walking in the countryside with Ollie.
    Best wishes, Pete.

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  2. I’m happy alone (although I have dogs; does that count?) But I have found that I become averse to going out if I live alone too long. I dash out for food shopping and bounce straight back, as if on elastic.
    So when I was living alone I joined a couple of groups (singing, Scottish country dance, writing group, u3a) to get me out of the house on a regular basis and among others. I think it would be easy otherwise to drift into mild agrophobia.

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    1. I don’t like getting out among people because my group is in their Eighties now and I do not wish to be reminded all the time that I am old. That is one reason I refer to senior centers not as social opportunities but as pre-nursing home training.

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